Dating after a long relationship can be
pretty hard, especially if you do not think you have it in you. For this
reason, you should prepare a little bit in advance. Since asking for a date is
still the boys' task, they need to be very careful on making a good first
impression. You know that there is no other chance to make another first
impression, so you need to do your best.
At the first date, there is not much
information to weight down. Therefore, your partner will settle with what you
want to offer. Therefore, you need to show the best out of you. In the same
time, when you ask a girl on a date, you might want to avoid asking the
following annoying questions.
1. What are we going to do next?
If you are going to ask a girl on a date,
you need to be prepared. Therefore, you should definitely not ask her what she
wants to do on your date. You need to have something prepared in advance in
order to show confidence and willingness. I know you are going to pick her up,
and you assume she knows some good places near her, but this should not be your
option. You need to think about a place that makes you comfortable and
confident.
2. What is your job?
Even if you feel proud about your job, this
does not mean you need to start talking about it all the time. In the same
time, you should not ask her about her job and her income. This will only show
that you are interested in her position and income. Women do not like men who
brag about their financial status or about what they do for a living. If you
still want to discuss your job, you should say how your job allows you to spend
your free time doing some of your hobbies. On the other hand, if you do not
like your job, you could easily say, “I hate my job” and share your plans.
3. What is your Type?
As some of you might imagine, this is a
really uncomfortable question. It will only show that you lack confidence, and
you need approval for her choices in the matter of men. You are her type,
starting with the moment she accepted to go out with your. Do not talk about
your type either. You will end up describing her, which will make her
uncomfortable, or you will become rude, by describing someone else. The same
goes for the things you hate. Better focus on the things you like, on the
things she likes and find a middle subject that is pleasing both of you.
4. Will you want to cover the bill?
This
might sound like something a man never asks, but in fact, I came across such a
person, and I must confess I felt I had no words to answer. I know that it is
not a man’s job to pay the whole bit, but it is definitely his job to offer. I
would never let a man pay the whole bill on the first date, but at least, he
should ask for it. The best way is to offer to pay the bill, and if a woman
insists on splitting the bill, you can agree with this. The bill can become a
terrible turning point, especially if you do not know how to handle the
situation. However, it all depends on the type of person you are, and on the
type of person, you go out with.
5. Should we move the date to my place?
I must confess this is the worse question a
man should ask, especially after the first date. This will only prove that you
wanted her in your sheets, and you do not care about how she felt during the
night. However, I am not saying that this is not a possible scenario. You can
move the date at your place, but only after you have seen multiple signs of
acceptance. If a woman showed you, interest in getting more private and
intimate, then you should ask this question, but not that direct. You should
put the question in a different manner.
As you can see, dating can turn out to be great,
as long as you know what to do and when to do it. I am sure that most of you
will feel nervous and without confidence, at least at start, especially when
you have not been dating for a while now. Nevertheless, in the same time, you
will manage to do and say the right things, as long as you remember to be
polite, respectful, and honest.
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