Tips and Tricks for the First Date

Dating for the first time in a long period of time can be a little bit overwhelming, especially if you are over your 30s. It is okay to be a little bit nervous and anxious when it comes to the first date. Here are a couple of simple tips and tricks that will definitely feel more confident.

When you think about your first date, you thing about what you are going to wear, what you will say, which place is the best play for a first date, what to do and what not to do. These things will eventually come across your thoughts, but you will have to deal with them in the best way possible, and the most important, without being too emotional. I know that it might seem like you go on a job interview, but in fact, you just meet a new person, a person you might end up spending a lot of time.

In the case you met the person online, things might be a little bit easier, since you already talked to her or him, and you already know a couple of her interests and passions. For this reason, you will have multiple topics to discuss, and you will not come across a time freeze, where no one speaks.

However, even if you do not know anything about your date, and you know that the first date is pretty much like a judge court, you still do not have to worry about. Everything will be all right as long as you keep in mind these simple tips.

First of all, it is important to pay attention to your date and this includes listening to what they are saying. You can ask a question or two, but only after, they finish talking. In the same time, you need to maintain eye contact during the conversation. In this way, you will show respect, and you will prove that you have paid attention to what he or she has to say.

When deciding to go out on a date with a person you just met online or through a mutual friend, you need to plan ahead. Showing that you have considered this meeting important it is definitely a plus. Therefore, plan something nice, maybe a dinner reservation or a movie ticket, and you will show her that you are interested in making her feel comfortable but also important.

As I mentioned above, the most suitable place to take a new date is the movies or at a fancy dinner place. Regarding the movies, it would be definitely nice to get the tickets in advance so you can avoid who will be paying for them. Now, regarding the dinner aspect, all you can do in advance is to book a table. The bill might be a topic of discussion especially these days, when women want to prove their independence. It is ok to split the bill, but never to let her pay the bill by herself. If you actually split the bill, offer to pay the next one by yourself. Moreover, if you promised you would call her, and then call her. If you do not, then find a way to deal with it and do not make false promises.

During the meeting, try to be polite and respectful. Turn off your cell phone and stop staring at other persons at the other tables. There is nothing ruder than taking a casual call from a friend and checking the waitress at the next table while your partner is trying to make conversation.

Another important aspect is related to the topics you choose to discuss. If you already checked her online profile and you know her interests, passions and hobbies, then try to focus on them. Never start a conversation about your problems or your past relationships. If you happen to come across, keep it simple, without too many details and spicy aspects. Keep in mind that women still appreciate a gentleman, so this is a good occasion for you to prove your education.

I know that women these days are into material, financial and emotional independence, but it will not ruin to make a few compliments, to share some thoughts and to be polite. Show confidence and respect, and you will receive the same. In the last part, let me just discuss a little bit the physical contact. I know that some of you might think about the first kiss or even the first night together. This may or may not happen. There are no rules here on whether you should kiss her or not. You will see how things will turn out to be, and you will feel the right thing to do at the right moment.

Keep in mind that the whole point of a first date is for you to figure out whether you want to know the respective person better or not. Sometimes, it is best to just follow your instinct.