First Date Tips for the Mature Dater

When you decide to start dating again after a long time, it might seem very hard to put your back on your feet. However, this is not impossible. For this reason, here are some tips and tricks that might help you get more comfortable and secure on a first date. After that, things will flow on their regular path.

In the time, especially after a long relationship or marriage, the stressful life, illness, or the difficult end of a lifetime relationship might seriously affect the confidence and the self-esteem, making it harder to keep it positive about yourself and the way you look. In this way, if you are approaching the matter in the right way, you will definitely find a solution. After all, there is someone out there for every one of us.

First of all, in order to raise the level of confidence and self-esteem, you need to feel right about your looks and you in general. For this, there might be a little bit of work before you actually go on a first date. For this reason, I am sure that most of you make use of different websites or social networks.

Online Profile and Picture 

In this respect, you need to make the most out of your best feature. Your main profile picture is the first thing new people will notice, so you will have to be perfect. This does not mean that you will have to hire a professional photographer or to make use of various photo programs. Just take a look in the mirror, find out which is your best feature and then, when you take a picture, focus on it. As I mentioned before, the picture needs to express the real you, in a good light. There is no need for lies or distortional images since you may end up having a date with a person who expects a different person.

It is important to minimize your flaws. There are various possibilities in which you can make yourself look better and here I do not want to say to use a lot of makeup. Just use the products that make you feel better and more confident in your looks. In the same time, it is important to keep it simple. There is no need for a special background, or different shades and lights. Do not use holiday snaps where you wear sunglasses or hats, but, in the same time, you need to use recent photos.

After you deal with your profile picture, you also need to work out your profile. As you may know, there are boxes for different aspects of one’s life. You can share your educations, job, interests, likes, dislikes, passions, etc. again, here, you need to keep things simple. Do not go over-discussing politics, religions, or other similar things.

The online profile can turn out to be a real help, mostly since you can gather a lot of useful information that could help you during the first date. By checking the date’s profile, you will find out plenty of interesting things, and you will definitely find some shared interests.

First dates can be a nerve-wracking affair, and whatever you choose to wear, it does not seem right. Go with your first option, and you will save yourself a lot of time in picking the right outfit.

Plan ahead

The person who asks the other person for a date needs to be fully responsible regarding the place where they would spend the night, what they will do afterwards, etc. There is nothing worse for a woman to go out on a date with a man that asks, “So, do you feel like doing something special tonight?” This is simply wrong. I do not suggest that men should thing out of the box and prepare an amazing night. As long as the things are simple, you will be more than OK. But, you will still need to have a plan.

The conversation

Regarding the date itself, there is no need to prepare the conversation in advance. Keep the conversation on neutral grounds, without asking personal questions, or too many personal details. It is best to discuss general topics such as hobbies and interests, current news, etc. even if we talk about mature dating or young dating, the point is all the same: to get comfortable with each other, to get to know each other better and to build rapport.

The rapport might sound a little bit too formal, but in fact, this is what we all do. When we know a new person, based on what she or he shared with us, we automatically create a profile and personality. Therefore, it is important not to lie, not to exaggerate, and definitely not to brag. On the other hand, make sure you are not too invasive or too inquisitive.

Relax and try to enjoy the night. I am sure that many dates have been ruined for lack of thought, or even because of too much effort. If you begin to have fun, your date will feel more comfortable and loose. Dating can be fun, and you should start enjoying it. As a last advice, just be yourself, be free of emotional issues and constraints, and have a lot of fun. I am sure that your date will be an overall success.