Online dating has become a top choice for
most people, especially for those who do not find the courage to speak directly
to a girl / boy. Finding the perfect match online is not that hard, but most
people make it very hard and difficult. The first step is to identify the
person you want to date and then to take the initiative.
In this respect, a message is more than
welcome. Just send a message and wait for her response. However, a one-sentence
message will not say too much, but it will definitely be a road-opener for
further conversations and interactions. Therefore, you need to be very careful
with what you are going to write in that first message.
Here, I want to tell you a few things you
need to consider when writing for the first time to a girl you found online. It
is important to be yourself, but it is also important to know where to limit
your interests and passions.
In the first part, let me just tell you
that you need to be original. Do not use any cheesy pick up lines to lure the
girl, and you should definitely not copy and paste the message from other
similar websites. I know that it is hard to make up a brand new attractive and
interesting message, but standard messages only do harm and the target will not
take into consideration your message. Learn a couple of things about the person
you are interested in and you will see that this will create a reaction.
Now, do not send multiple messages. Keep in
mind to maintain a 1:1 message ration because you do not want to become boring.
There are many reasons why someone is not answering back. Sometimes, persons
just check the inbox quickly, or they do not have enough time to answer a
message, even if it is catchy. So, do not despair and send another message.
Wait until the respective person gets the message, read it and finds the time
to answer to you.
One good approach is to become subjective.
I know that it is hard to find the right words in order to make a new person
answer your messages, but it is not impossible. I also know that the primary
reason you choose to send a message to somebody is that you find that
respective person attractive. Being the first who initiates a conversation, it
is natural to assume that you have already seen her pictures, and you find her
attractive. In this respect, there is no need for you to mention this in your
message. Alternatively, you should focus on the emotional part. Mention the
fact that you share the same interested, that you like her personality based on
what you have seen on her profile.
It is also important to target a specific
person based on her own interests and needs. For example, the distance might
not be a problem for you, but maybe she is looking for people around her city.
Next, move to someone who is interested in people of your gender, location,
age, etc. If you keep this is mind; you will not waste anybody’s time.
In the last part, you need to be polite and
nice. Use a decent and nice language because there is no need to be rude.
Accept a no for an answer and move on. Many people adopt cheesy pick up lines,
and they expect an answer. Nobody will respond to a message-containing pickup
lines or rude words.
Keep the message content clean so there are no
awkward moments for the recipient. In the same time, no one wants to date a sad
sack, and no one wants to hear about your terrible problems with your dating
life. If you choose to use the internet to follow all single women, maybe you
should not expose your life right from the beginning. If you stick to these
simple rules, and you try to be a little bit funny, I am sure that you will end
up having a nice conversation with the woman you are interested in. In the same
time, try not to use clichés and keep your online profile clean and honest.
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